You are Not Alone
What is top of mind for me today is that through social media and even through watching people out and about, it is very easy to believe that everyone else in the world has the perfect life and that you are the only person who is struggling in some way.
The truth is, all of us, by virtue of being alive, have good days and bad days. Social media is not the only vehicle by which we all put our best face forward. Long before social media, people would ask each other on the street “How are you today?” and likely the answer would be some version of “Fine, thank you,” or maybe, on a particularly hard day, “Hanging in there.” An optimistic, positive answer. Why do we present that way? One reason is so that we don’t have to admit that we are vulnerable. Another, so that we don’t burden someone else with our problems. Certainly there are others.
Every person who has posted a picture of themselves happy on vacation has also experienced sadness. Every person who shows a picture of their child doing something amazing has worries and concerns about that child. Every person who posts a smiling picture of themselves with friends and/or family has experienced loneliness. And that physically fit athlete, finishing one race or another, has been injured and many have had times when they wondered if they would be able to compete again.
This gets magnified when someone is operating a business. Sole proprietors need to engage in all kinds of media to draw in customers. I was talking to a friend who owns a yoga studio, and she was saying that she always posted pictures of large classes. This conveys the message, “Come join in something that so many people have chosen, too!” As a business, she is not going to post a picture of a teacher instructing 2 or 3 people, but of course it happens. I can speak to my own experience that sometimes people show up for offerings and sometimes people don’t. This happens in any small business. Somebody opens a shop, a restaurant, what have you, and then there are good days and bad days.
So, my point is, when you think about your place in the world try not to create a story about someone being different from you. Every single person experiences joys and sorrows, success and failure, acceptance and rejection, worries and flow moments. Everyone wants to be loved and included. Can we live in such a way that we don’t think of others as competitors in some kind of imagined race?
Copyright 2019 Nancy C Murray