Swim with the Tide

Let go of the ways you thought life
would unfold . . .
Save your strength to swim with the tide
— Danna Faulds

I have read the above words many many times, and every time I seem to glean a new understanding of how they can help live a more peaceful and joyful life.  Like sucking on an everlasting gobstopper, every time I come to revisit this, I think that I have finally figured it out, and then, voila, another way to look at it. 

This week, it wasn't actually the reading of the poem "Let it Go," that brought me to an insight, rather it was an experience that made me think of the poem.   Regardless, I have been thinking about how much suffering we cause in our lives by fighting what is.  It is so easy to have expectations for ourselves, others, events, really everything, and while it is healthy to set goals, it is equally important to notice what is actually happening and enjoy that.  Maybe an appointment takes longer than you thought, you go to a restaurant and your favorite food isn't on the menu, or is cooked "wrong", perhaps a friend doesn't call or DOES call but behaves like themselves rather than your perfect image of them.  How long does it take to reset and see what is actually happening and honor the love and the beauty of the moment just as it is?    When we release our grip on our plans or our own point of view, there might be something even more sweet to experience than what we ever expected.  In the above examples, maybe you strike up a conversation with someone also waiting, you order a different dish, you learn to accept the strength of your friend's unique way of being in the world.  This is not to say that we shouldn't stick up for ourselves when necessary or stand up against injustice, this is just a practice for the inevitable little foibles that occur in every day life.

You might notice how it feels to observe this week when you can let go into the beauty of each moment - those that go according to plan and those that don't!


Copyright 2018 Nancy C Murray