A few weeks ago, I gave a Joycast about the benefits of looking up. I didn’t mean looking up to the sky, simply looking up from the smart phone. I had been observing so many people outside in beautiful places who were staring at their smart phones, spines shaped like tiny little c-curves. I have done a little experimenting myself and have found that you really can't be in two places at once, and when you are absorbed in your phone you really aren’t paying attention to the people or places around you. You know the feeling yourself, when you are talking to someone and suddenly they turn and look at their phone. The loss of connection is palpable. The world feels that way, too.
One of the things that we all enjoyed last week when walking the Camino was the deep personal connections that we made so quickly with those in our group but also with others who were walking along the path as well. Sharing face to face conversations, pointing out something beautiful or interesting, or even walking alone just noticing the beauty surrounding us was profoundly healing.
You might notice when it is that you turn to the phone. Maybe it is absent-mindedly after it beeps for some kind of notification. Perhaps it is when you are feeling a bit lonely or low on energy and you turn to the phone for some kind of information or affirmation hit. At those times, you might, instead, go outside or turn to look into the eyes of a person near you. You will likely find that the boost you get from actual connection is more satisfying and long lasting.
I invite you to try this. Leave the phone in one place, like we used to have with fixed phones, or at least turn off any sound notifications. Go out and experience the real world for a while. You might find the connection to be a sweet as honey.
Copyright 2018 Nancy C Murray